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Fear and Longing

Hillary Clinton
Hillary Clinton
Hillary Diane Rodham Clinton, born October 26, 1947, is the 67th United States Secretary of State, serving in the administration of President Barack Obama. She was a United States Senator for New York from 2001 to 2009. As the wife of the 42nd President, Bill Clinton, she was the First Lady of the United States from 1993 to 2001. | Photo: Richard Phibbs | Hillary Clinton, Secretary Of State, Senator, Bill Clinton,

Hillary Clinton will have to develop a bulge

Hillary Clinton is going to make a run for the first woman president in American history. She knows it and I know it. She is a highly intelligent, forceful, sometimes ruthless human being, other than just being a woman. But there are problems built-in for her candidacy.

America has been and still is a racist, sexist country, a country of red necks, fruitcakes and haters. There are many good people here too, but let's face it, we're not like the more intelligent and circumspect British. If you don't think the British are more intelligent, read comments made by the Beatles on their American fans.
The Beatles couldn't believe it and said so, how ugly, unsophisticated and na?ve their American fans were compared to British groupies of the same age, and the Rolling Stones even made a song about it titled "Look at that Stupid Girl."
Nevertheless, they also knew the American parents of these girls had money and in copying American rock and roll they got rich off us.
The British are less prone to macho fantasies than Americans, on issues like guns, women's roles, and the inferior underling status of imagined lesser peoples who they think should know their place, usually blacks, Arabs, immigrants, women and such.
This is still a country as portrayed by Johnny Carson as the ignorant duck hunter Floyd R. Turbo, and Jonathan Winters as the inbred hillbilly character Elwood P. Suggins.
This is not for just Hillary, but for all women on what they should know about men, because men rule the world. Oh sure, they let a few women in as tokens, but men are in real charge. If you're a woman, better the devil you know than the one you don't.

We've heard the old sayings, "A man's gotta do what a man's gotta do," or "You can't live with 'em, and you can't live without 'em." This was always said by men about women. In reality, men often can't live with women, so-called minorities, or themselves.

It's because of fear.

I wanna be a big man. I want people to fawn on me. I want people to salute me. I want people to fear me. Men are driven by fear. Fear of not having enough, enough money for example. The more money you have, the more a man you are. Aside from your male organ, the size of your wallet is how much a man you are.

To most women, a job---- for which they still continue to receive less pay on average than men---- for it to be rewarding or fulfilling is more important than the attainment of mere money and things.

To a man on the other hand, symbolism is everything, symbols. A big man drives a big expensive car or truck and lives in a big house even if it's way too big for him. A big man eats like a hog. A big man uses things up and discards them and buys more big things.

But always, we get back to that most male of feelings, fear.

There was a line from the movie "City Slickers" in which Jack Palance told Billy Crystal he was more of a man. "I crap bigger than you."

Fear of not being a bigger man than the next man is what drives men. As boys we all watched John Wayne movies. John Wayne hit everybody, but mostly nobody beat up John Wayne, the he-bull.
I've got to be more of a man than you are. A big man acts tough even though he's not.
This is also how we deal with other countries.

Women seldom express this dysfunctional desire. You hardly ever hear a woman say to another, "I'm more of a woman than you are." Tammy Wynette did sing one time, "You ain't woman enough, to take my man."

If a woman is elected to political office and she acts tough, she is accused of being a "bitch." If she acts feminine, she's accused of being a "wimpy woman" That's why it's going to be very hard for a woman to become president.

Women such as Margaret Thatcher (former English prime minister) have proven that women can be excellent leaders or a disaster depending on your political viewpoint. Thatcher was something of a real ball-buster, seeming more masculine then feminine, but again, British men aren't as hung up by macho fantasies as American men are.

Men are under no such handicaps as "bitch or "wimp," but they're afraid of being identified as such. To be a man in political office and to be stubborn, stupid, thick-headed and unreasonable is also to be admiringly called "decisive."

Men are driven by fear, fear of almost everything, fear of being proven wrong, fear of not being seen as manly, fear of having their desired or imagined "Alpha Number One Wolf" status challenged or proven false. That's if they believe they achieved that status to begin with.

Fear of insignificancies is the worst fear of all. Ostentation. Women! Ostentation and its trappings are the keys to understanding men. Understand?

To understand men and the world is to understand fear and longing.

To be a man is to be constantly in fear of not being a man, not man enough.

Women see life more as a contributory participation by disparate separate individuals where foibles and weaknesses are more or less tolerated. Men see it as a patriarchal pecking order with themselves on top complete with underlings in their assigned places.
Everything from Watergate to World War Two to Iraq can be explained by macho fear. You have to gain dominance, do it to them before they can do it to you, or the aptly Freudian descriptive pun called "one-upmanship."

If I can beat you up, I'm more of a man than you are. If you can beat me up, you're more of a man than I am. It's as simple as that.

The biggest man has the biggest muscles and the biggest bulge in his pants.

To become president, Hillary will have to develop some kind of real or figurative bulge.

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